Forced Consent

In the BDSM world the slogan Safe Sane and Consensual is slapped to our collective bumper sticker. We are reminded of it in the same way our mothers reminded us of the golden rule, or to eat your veggies.I began thinking about the last word in those four dripping words, consensual.

Consensual, as the adjective in the aforementioned sentence, means to enter in to mutual agreement with another person. An important principal in BDSM, especially at public play events, or getting to know some new kinksters, this rule is adhered to; providing all a safe way to say no, the other party accepts the no without argument or concern. Continue reading

Non Consensual Voyeurs

Much of our leisure time is occupied navigating the internets; the wonderful tubes of information to gratify ourselves in many different ways. Not just sexual gratification, whole “communities” of people who identify and relate to a common theme. It can be of any topic that has enthusiasts who want to share their knowledge, facilitating easy communication for those who otherwise would never have the opportunity to do so.

As people know, or may not know every website  has your interests recorded in a database somewhere, not entirely a bad thing, good consumer intelligence some would say. But like all endeavors it has its bad apples who have a sick need to exercise control over other people.

Glen Greenwald stated: The ways in which the loss of privacy destroys a society are somewhat abstract and difficult to articulate, though very real.  A society in which people know they are constantly being monitored is one that breeds conformism and submission, and which squashes innovation, deviation, and real dissent.

As we participate in activities that we consent too, having this unprecedented surveillance is a real threat to those of us who live what is labeled “an alternative lifestyle”.

Its not a small step to consider that in this typically fascist America today we are sliding towards on oligarchy of super wealthy people ruling over the “less well to do population”. These are the types that create legislation such as, the Patriot Act, the Arizona anti immigrant bill, non nudity, no touch strip bars. The country is littered laws from federal, state, and local  communities whose moral standards of living have not evolved much since the second century.

Since most kinky gatherings are not publicly known, and that some perceived social retribution is too costly to be open about your choices. Its not unreal to perceive the creation of laws that outlaws or restricts participating in such activity.

All over the country there is hysteric legislation that is targeted at people of color. But what if the bosses get tired of just picking on the poor ethnic groups, and just go after the rest of us who enjoy getting our kicks out of consensual flogging.

As the rich grow more powerful, making sure they cause enough hysteria to keep honest folks from thinking clearly. We may see laws drafted that restrict our ability to communicate about our consensual desires. Sites such as Fetlife, Collar Me, or Kink.com could be blocked or restricted by communities that have enough motivated voters to pass such oppressive legislation.

Voting time is approaching in parts of the USA, when walking into the voting booth take the time educate yourself about who you are voting for. For the vote you cast may be for the person who is going to help you build your own coffin, and they will do so with a smile.

Jay

If Your Not Hetero Your Against Us

You might have heard in the news of a video called Collateral Murder, a video testimony of the uselessness of war shown to the world by the organization Wikileaks. The person who provided that video was a young US Army Specialist by the name of Bradley Manning. You can read background about the story here, here, and here.

Though the media will largely ignore this heroic effort by this young man, the picture they will paint will be that of a solitary, angry man. Already there are allegations that the guy is a “pre transgendered male” who was upset at the dont ask dont tell policy, the media will stoke the homophobic fears of Americans. Painting the young man in a negative light, instead of applauding and standing up for what this kid did.

As if being gay, bi, or transgendered were more of a crime than projecting unwarranted violence on a distant people. For when they mention Mr Manning, with his “stylish upswept hair” or any individual in the media having non hetero tendencies it is usually implied as to “what” type of sex they prefer, not “with” whom they prefer. The Supreme Court nominee Kagan underwent much the same sort of smear when she was first introduced.

Large media outlets today serve as marketing tools for whatever corporate umbrella they would be under. Take this story from Violet Blue, the hidden agenda behind some anti porn groups; or the marketing driven news supplements that play on emotion to jump start sales.

For in this day and age of Corporate Media, sexual acceptance comes down to two factors, on the one hand you need to display along with big tits, a virginal purity, acting whimsical and submissive; or if you are not violently destroying something then fucking it brutally, you are a sodden wimp who deserves to be pushed around.

~Jay

A Step Forward Into The 20th Century

You would think that as a society we evolve physically, spiritually, intellectually. However it looks like those kings of platitude are lock stepping right into the Victorian Age.

A new law passed by the Missouri State Legislature seeks to ban the existence of adult bookstores, strip clubs within 1,000 ft of of church, school, park. It also bans nudity in strip clubs, cannot be within six feet of dancer, no alcohol sold, and strip clubs must close from midnight to six am.

Certainly typical of what you find as either state or local ordinances across the country, it varies of course but seems to be the norm.

But that’s beside the point, the legislation is forwarded to the Governor will be signed into law, then challenged in court, then amended to allow local municipalities to establish their own laws regulating strip clubs. Which then makes the bill nothing more than a political bumper sticker the ignorant use to get votes.

Which in the end will only marginalize those who would participate in adult entertainment responsibly. Cause the dancer to go underground, or allow them to exploited further, at the same time the customer faces increased demonization and guilt.

And the wheel keeps on turnin…

~JM

Mmmm….Thats Good Marketing !

Looks like there is to be a general election in the UK soon.

So I have to give a hat tip to the marketing department for seizing an opportunity. The folks at LoveHoney are selling a vibrating cock ring for 25p (however much that is 🙂 the only catch is you have to vote for which candidate you would prefer to have a roll in the hay with.

JM