An Extremely Tardy HNT

I apologize for my tardiness….anything I can do to make amends…let me know ;o)

xo

G

New Boobie Harness!

Its apparent to anyone that has poked around our blog at all that while I have many gifts and pleasing attributes, ‘a nice rack’ isnt one of them.  As a card-carrying member of the Itty-Bitty-Titty-Committee, Im comfortable with that, and most of the time am grateful that I can run, sleep on my stomach, and have no fear of my breasts sagging to my waste before I retire.

But when we embarked on our kink journey, and got our first rope, we had a very difficult time finding a breast/chest harness that didn’t slide together, or make me look like a pre-pubescent boy.  Jay, as always, was determined to find/create a harness that would work for me.

Jay finally stumbled onto a video demo from the wonderful people at Kink.com. Boobs: Be They Big or Small, Learn How To Tie Them All,  a demo by Matt Williams and one small-breasted crazy sexy brunette and one large-breasted, voluptuous hottie.

It was easily the best breast harness we’ve tried.  It was comfortable enough I wore it around the house for quite a bit.  The way the rope is wrapped, it pinches and stimulates my nipples with every movement.  I LOVED IT!  Jay, as always a thinkin’ man, grabbed the camera.  The harness was perfect, the light was perfect, we were so in sync and connected.  I felt sexy.  The following pictures were the result.  I love them and hope you will enjoy them too.

xo

G

Birds & The Bees Response

Our Rope-Idol, Graydancer, was entertaining the topic of sex education, aka ‘the birds and the bees’ that prompted this response from me:

I have an 11 year old daughter (going on 23) who just underwent the per-requisite ‘birds and bees day’ at school. She brought home the form, and giggled, and said ‘do I really have to do this? I already know all this stuff!”

I’m an RN, and she is my 3rd trip down the hormonal hell-train that is puberty, she’s been very educated about her body and we’ve started talking about sex (in a sex-positive way, of course!) She came home from ‘V-Day’ (Vagina Day) at school with a little package containing a pamphlet for her and one for me (on how/what to talk to my daughter about puberty) 2 pads, and a mini Secret deodorant. I started looking through the booklets, and it was like Nickelodeon and Disney combined to vomit all over the traditional material! So very upbeat about the whole ordeal! They went into a lot of detail about every, and I do mean EVERY possible symptom of puberty onset.
That all sounds pretty good, right? But as I kept reading there was NO mention of sex at all. Lots of info about pubescent changes (and the boys got the same deal in a separate room, of course), but NOTHING about masturbation/sex (although she did ask me about wet dreams…lol). The funny/tragic thing about the whole deal was they still talked about sex that day. On the playground at lunchtime, my daughter said the boys and girls compared booklets in their little cliques. (one of the boys apparently asked how he would know if he had an erection, and the teachers response was ‘it will be staring right back at you’…lol…the one-eyed-wonder-worm strikes again!) She says no one offered ‘show and tell’, but the majority of the conversation that was relayed to me was about how the two genders fit together in a sexual context. I answered all of her questions she garnered from her lunchtime schoolyard quorum, which she promptly ran to the computer to send off messages to her little pals to clarify their confusion as well. Since then, Ive kind of turned into the impromptu Dr. Ruth for her and her 6th grade pals! I figure as a nurse, at least I’m making sure they have accurate info (instead of the usual fallacies that are circulated at that age) but I was sad that even after revamping the whole ‘sex-ed day’ at school, they STILL are not covering safe sex, or sex at all for that matter. So I cant speak for anyone else, but I am spreading sex-positive education in our neck of the woods! lol

I ask myself as I sit here, why is the general consensus society-wide that sex is bad and should not be discussed? If you enjoy sex, in any of its many, many flavors, why wouldn’t you want to make sure your child enjoys something that is such an integral part of successful relationships? Certainly there should be some small constraint as to when a child is emotionally/physically mature enough to handle the content of such education.  But if we teach our children how to be kind and generous, manage money, take care of themselves physically, and drive a car, as well as a zillion other lessons taught by example every day, why shouldn’t they learn that amazing joy and fulfillment can be had and shared? Why DON’T we want our children to feel good?

I think society as a whole should get over their own discomfort about talking about sex, and quit leaving their children’s sex education to the internet and gossip circles at school. After all, everyone knows those are VERY credible sources of information.

Thanks for listening to my rant…you can read Gray’s original article here

xo

G

Intertwined And Tied

The music plays, a bass-line pounds deep.

Lights flicker, our guiding glow.

Warm, soft, skin, skimming touch, with heavy rope, to bind and unwind you.

Musceles tighten, stress and release, balance, rising to the ring above.

I’m floating, falling, hovering, transcending pain and finding pieces of self.

And above it all is

love

safety

heat

passion

kink

comfort

levity

intensity

and a supreme belief in another being.

Intertwined and tied.

HNT

An ever-so-slightly-early HNT for you…

xo

G

Super Hot Economist

Georgia and I quite often point out various people we find attractive, from the average person on the street to the plastic people on tv. We excite each other speculating about others sexual proclivities, or lack thereof. In fact Georgia cant watch five minutes of Lost without telling me how she would like to be the filler in the Sawyer and Kate sandwich.

The other day Nomi Prins, an economist who has a new book coming out, was speaking on Democracy Now. Smoky good looks, and very intelligent, I had to listen to her three or four times, as I was caught up in daydreaming about her making out with Georgia. I showed her to G to get her opinion.

Georgia gave me a toothy grin. She’s hot ! Is all G could say !  To which G immediately pounced on my rising index, meeting it greedily with her wet mouth.

~Jay

Fantasy Play

So how much does one express oneself in the arms of another lover while riding the cascading sheets of orgasmic intensity. Do you tell your cohort all that is in your mind. Do you speak about seeing your partner in some various form of sexual pleasure ?
Some have said that what is said in bed stays in bed, and shouldn’t be taken further or too seriously.

While I would agree that is true in many different aspects, I think alternatively it is important for people to express their desires in bed, talk about them, explore what you like and don’t like.

I think of this reflecting how the kinky/sexual relationship I have with G has grown. Certainly its not limited to merely our sexual dynamic, but has enhanced the relationship in many many positive ways.

At times Georgia and I tell each other all kinds of particular raunchy, or not so raunchy, fantasy’s when we have sex. Saying these things to each other has been the extra seasoning to our saucy mix that is our life together; raising our intimacy, honesty, and communication.

In the middle of sex we are as vulnerable as we will ever be to another person.  Being able to speak freely without judgment frees us from the shackles of pre existing beliefs. Breaks though our fears of the unknown, to experience that what was once thought of as taboo, or forbidden. Georgia and I started teasing each other about being watched, which led to playing on the cam, which then led to daring make out sessions in public, to risque clothing, to then jumping wholeheartedly into rope bondage.

At the same time, other areas of our life have been made easier with the increased trust. The demands of the workplace, home life, non sex interactions with others, all of these particular stresses becomes much easier to handle.

So as I tell G while her long legs are thrown over my shoulder; I want to tie her up and have two women tease every inch of her body at my instruction. I get a greater turn on knowing that she’s thinking the same thing, only its me that is tied up !

From The Bottom View

Jay has mentioned our weekend o’ rigging…so I thought I would add some of the practical knowledge we gained.  It was definitely everything he described sensually, emotionally and physically, and then some. I could ramble on for a couple of pages about how much closer I feel to him after the experiences of the weekend. But I thought I would touch on what we learned in our adventures.

First, if your not in very good shape (and even if you are), I highly advocate stretching pre- and post-. I am 38 y/o and weigh between 135 and 140 lbs and have been fairly athletic my whole life.  I have had surgery (cervical fusion) on my neck, and my spine in general is not nearly as bendy as it was 15 years ago.

So we have had much discussion about how best to suspend me without hurting me, since we are fairly determined to become semi-proficient riggers/rope sluts.   I was amazed to find what would be a comfortable position just laying there was not the case in suspension.  For example, Jay had me suspended by hips/waist, knees and chest harness, with my feet dangling at 90 degrees.  Initially it was fine, but after about five minutes, my knees started aching, a problem that was alleviated when he place a tie around my ankle and looped it through the rig, supporting it.  The same was true of my hips.  The compression of the rope when the majority of my weight was on the rope (kind of like a swing) was fine initially, but by the time I was let down (about 30 minutes I think, but my sense of time was somewhat skewed at that point), I was feeling the ache.

So the pre- and post- stretching is definitely something I will continue with in the future.  Loosening up joints and tendons, warming up the flexibility of the spine, loosening up the hands, knees and other distal attachment points, and of course, preparing your core for the stress of the suspension are a must.  I also think it gives you, as the person being tied up, a few minutes of quiet to focus on your body, and your partner, get in tune, and prepare physically, emotionally and spiritually, for this type of play.

The other thing I found interesting had to do with how tight the rope has to be tied.  That may sound silly, but as a nurse, I am acutely conscious of the potential for injury, and would kill to go to one of Sophia Sky’s classes in Seattle, WA about the anatomy of bondage.  Jay and I communicate constantly any time he ties/suspends me.  Primarily its part of the learning process of the emerging rigger; but additionally, its a safety issue with regard to cutting off circulation to a limb, compressing a nerve bundle, or causing muscle spasm from an accidentally  misplaced knot.  As bizarre as this sounds, having the rope tied as tightly as possible to your hips/chest initially (before your ever off the ground), without cutting of blood supply or lung expansion room, actually makes it so much easier when your off the ground.  There is less slippage on your body (read ‘rope burn’) and less potential for accidental injury when the rope moves from its intended position.

Also, we will be doing some research about the best harnesses for suspension.  There seems to be lots of reference about what is called ‘grounded rope bondage’ from amazing riggers and rope-experts, most of whom we have links to on our sidebar (Twisted Monk and Graydancer being our favorites). We have also learned a considerable number of ties, harnesses and pretty finishing knots from the Knotty Boys videos. But as to actual suspension harnesses, we continue to search.  We have a friend that is sort of ‘mentoring’ us in this area, but he admits to not having a ready subject to practice on/scene with, so he hasn’t done a lot of suspension either. But let me tell you this, the harnesses that look sexy and sensuous on the body are NOT designed for suspension.  Jay initially tried a harness that looped around my neck, with double coin knots down the center of my body at regular intervals, ran the rope between my legs (see aforementioned rope slippage injury potential) and then laced up around my waist from the back. It was intricate, and pretty and I loved the way it felt on the ground.  When he ran the rope from various points on the harness up the the rig, the pressure on my sacrum and the ligaments on my inner thighs was almost immediate pain (and not the good kind!) So any advice on good suspension harnesses, please forward to us straight away!  We watch all the video we can search on the net, watching how different pro-riggers get their subjects off the ground, but are always grateful for practical, hands-on knowledge/experience.

With all of that, would you believe we had an amazing time, and cant wait to do it again?

xo

G

Eye Candy

Looking at her

while listening to this 🙂

Summer Here

The warm weather, garden, and a privacy fence make for a play land of distraction. Hard to focus on work and writing when you have scantily clad female applying herself to a bit of sweaty physical labor.

If I swing the pick, or plunge the shovel deep into the furrowed ground, she rewards me by bending over strategically.

My reward at the end of the day is giving her a cool spraying her with my hose.

~JM