Facebook 99% Culture Free

The young upstart social network Facebook is deciding to embrace mediocrity at the ascent of its popularity. Over the last few weeks Facebook has removed a feminist pro porn page( no porn was displayed or linked too), the Liberator sex furniture company had its page removed, they recently they removed a pot legalization ad.

Of course, Facebook, as a private company can decide their own policies, and a user can decide whether they wish to participate in Facebook. But it seems the social networking company is drafting their policies as they go, respond to whatever pressure group makes enough noise.  The acts I described above seem to contradict their mission that it is “giving people the power to share and make the world more open and connected”.

They are breaking a rule of business which is to stick with one thing and do it well, instead they seem to be distracted by the very Clinton-esque method of trying to sell to everyone, making everyone happy, instead of focusing on their original mission. A company not focusing on its goals or mission, has long term negative revenue consequences for a business.

The primary reason I choose not participate in Facebook is that to me it functions as a marketing platform, nor was I inclined to participate when they first came on the scene as a way for high school and college kids to share photos from the previous weekends kegger. Now as they have loftier ambitions will they too become apprehensive in search of the almighty dollar, afraid to take risks, becoming irrelevant,  like their predecessors, AOL, or Yahoo.

We’ll see…

~Jay

Enhanced Feel Up

Here is an article for the state loving pro sex crowd. Seems that the TSA at Boston Logon airport are implementing a palms up frisk policy. As opposed to the subtle back of the hand feel up, all for “passenger safety” of course. Yet strip bars, private property, must maintain at least six feet of distance from two consenting adults.

But I guess its only the state that can molest you without consequences.

I guess the next time I fly I will make sure I stuff that cucumber in my crotch.

~Jay

Forced Consent

In the BDSM world the slogan Safe Sane and Consensual is slapped to our collective bumper sticker. We are reminded of it in the same way our mothers reminded us of the golden rule, or to eat your veggies.I began thinking about the last word in those four dripping words, consensual.

Consensual, as the adjective in the aforementioned sentence, means to enter in to mutual agreement with another person. An important principal in BDSM, especially at public play events, or getting to know some new kinksters, this rule is adhered to; providing all a safe way to say no, the other party accepts the no without argument or concern. Continue reading

Sexual Articulation

The other day Georgia told me of a situation in which it was obvious that an older man, situated in a seat a short distance from her. He was half turned in his chair, staring directly at her, sitting next to his wife rubbing her back sensually with one hand. He had a shit eating grin on his face, looking directly at Georgia. Georgia knew what the guy was thinking, and noticed the guys wife oblivious. If only he could tell his wife what he was thinking, but I speculate each has been taught that such thoughts are unacceptable.

As a couple we can talk to our partner about children, money, career, but somehow sex gets left out of that discussion. Expressing your desires about sex is not easy for some, yet we enter into relationships without discussing our sexual desires. It takes trust, comfort, and time to bandy about such intimate details, but still wedding bells must ring. The initial lift off of primal urges clouds our thinking, emotionally we try to connect with someone, mutely, anticipating there approval or disapproval.

In expressing what we find attractive, especially when we mention other people does not mean we want to orgasm with them, its should be treated as seeing a wonderful work of art or nature to be appreciated. Sexually Georgia and I play together, all our sexual interactions with anyone else includes the both of us. If we play with others we both play together but its not a rule we sat down and made. It has evolved as our desire to make each other happy prohibits us from playing with someone else without including the other.

Five years ago I couldnt imagine myself making that type of statement; it shows what love trust and commitment can do for a relationship.

Non Consensual Voyeurs

Much of our leisure time is occupied navigating the internets; the wonderful tubes of information to gratify ourselves in many different ways. Not just sexual gratification, whole “communities” of people who identify and relate to a common theme. It can be of any topic that has enthusiasts who want to share their knowledge, facilitating easy communication for those who otherwise would never have the opportunity to do so.

As people know, or may not know every website  has your interests recorded in a database somewhere, not entirely a bad thing, good consumer intelligence some would say. But like all endeavors it has its bad apples who have a sick need to exercise control over other people.

Glen Greenwald stated: The ways in which the loss of privacy destroys a society are somewhat abstract and difficult to articulate, though very real.  A society in which people know they are constantly being monitored is one that breeds conformism and submission, and which squashes innovation, deviation, and real dissent.

As we participate in activities that we consent too, having this unprecedented surveillance is a real threat to those of us who live what is labeled “an alternative lifestyle”.

Its not a small step to consider that in this typically fascist America today we are sliding towards on oligarchy of super wealthy people ruling over the “less well to do population”. These are the types that create legislation such as, the Patriot Act, the Arizona anti immigrant bill, non nudity, no touch strip bars. The country is littered laws from federal, state, and local  communities whose moral standards of living have not evolved much since the second century.

Since most kinky gatherings are not publicly known, and that some perceived social retribution is too costly to be open about your choices. Its not unreal to perceive the creation of laws that outlaws or restricts participating in such activity.

All over the country there is hysteric legislation that is targeted at people of color. But what if the bosses get tired of just picking on the poor ethnic groups, and just go after the rest of us who enjoy getting our kicks out of consensual flogging.

As the rich grow more powerful, making sure they cause enough hysteria to keep honest folks from thinking clearly. We may see laws drafted that restrict our ability to communicate about our consensual desires. Sites such as Fetlife, Collar Me, or Kink.com could be blocked or restricted by communities that have enough motivated voters to pass such oppressive legislation.

Voting time is approaching in parts of the USA, when walking into the voting booth take the time educate yourself about who you are voting for. For the vote you cast may be for the person who is going to help you build your own coffin, and they will do so with a smile.

Jay

Big Fat Hairy State

Last week Judge Richard Leon dismissed on grounds of insufficient evidence obscenity charges against John Stagliano, charges that were brought during the Bush Administration. Not really a surprise that the charges were dismissed as it was a shoddy attempt at convicting anyone on anything other than making trite porn.

The obscenity charges against Stagliano took root during the Bush Administration; private uninhibited fornication was second only to terrorism in nature of evil during that time. There are however convictions ever day of small time pornographers, prostitutes, bdsm enthusiasts, kids sending txt message, there will be no limousine liberal grandstanding on courthouse steps for their freedom.

But not a shocking outcome even if the trial had gone forward, the case didnt meet any of the criteria to be obscene, and a great deal depends on the how zealous the government would be at the time. Nothing can save a person at the mercy of the deep pockets of the government; as the mafia knows all too well. I guess thats one decent thing about the new Justice department in not challenging this, they got there hands full elsewhere.

Lyndon Johnson once stated that if you call your opponent a pig fucker, your opponent will have to run around denying they fuck pigs. Essentially those of us in the kink world are all one crazy prosecutor away from being locked up, just remember what happened to Tommy Chong. There could be a hysterical prosecutor in some town and whether he gets a conviction or not your reputation is smeared your broke financially, and he gets elected to office.

This case is a reminder again of how bloated, inefficient, and over reaching the State apparatus has become not just threatening big time producers but all of us who are merely wanting to live, laugh, and have fun before it all goes black.

Jay Morgan

New Reads

Some quick bits.

Over at Counterpunch Dr Susan Block gives us some lovely verbiage with her review of the Bonobo Handshake by Vanessa Woods.

And after a tweet about this new book, a wonderful easy to read dissertation titled Sex At Dawn The Pre Historic Origins Of Modern Sexuality. Anyone interested in any aspect of sexual congress should read this book. Certain the author(s) will be making the day time talk show rounds if they havnt already.

~JM