DIY Flogger

First run at our roll yer own flogger, details shortly.

Candle HNT

Oh yeah…its Thursday.

A Love River

Relationships are like rivers, never stopping, sometimes they flow fast, raging forward, causing changes to the the surrounding landscape. At other times, rivers are calm, slow, flowing easily, almost stopping in time, allowing the wildlife to enjoy the bounty of the water.

The relationship with our significant other is much the same way. Realizing that your love flows around, over, and through obstacles that are tossed in your current.

When something falls into that current, it does not cause the water to stop flowing. It floats momentarily before settling to the bottom, or causes the water to froth and flow around it. In the split second of time before settling to the bottom is the moment to realize that its only for a moment. No matter the size of the object thrown in the water, it cannot stop the love that flows between two people.

Jay

Rope Pride Flag

I remember first seeing a gay pride flag in a antiquated bohemian tourist trap in Arkansas. It seemed most every business had it either waving in front of their business or in sticker form on their door. I never really paid too much attention to their significance, all cultures of whatever variety have some sort of icon to easily identify with others of a similar mind. From the Grateful Dead’s “Stealie” to the Jolly Roger; there has to be an insignia of some sort for whatever fringe culture might be out there. Which is why I like seeing the Rope Pride Flag.

To me the point in this particular debate that is reinforced is that all good ideas evolve; a discussion like this will inspire something special in someone without them even realizing it. Much like playing music, riffing and grooving til you find the magic passage of chords.

There has been a great deal of discussion about it on Graydancers blog. I like the simplicity of the first design, which is very cool, but this latest version really shines. The rope bondage community, like all ad hoc groups, has no design committee to decide what sort of flag rope lovers must fly, its an egalitarian choice made by the individuals who make up the community.

Jay

Sharing The Ropey Goodness

We met a M/s couple recently, who are new to are area, and have an interest in kink.  He was slender and confident, she the picture of dark desire, a very nice, pleasant couple; who shared with us mutual interest in business, eating healthy, and kink. We chatted a while eating a bite of pizza, talking about respective lives, interests, and the inability to attend enough play parties.

We made a group decision to take things back to our play space, delaying our drive only momentarily to purchase some liquid spirits. After arriving at our pad we talked for a bit, then got the rope out for a demonstration. I would not dare pass up a chance to show off G or get a chance to tie someone.

I did a basic suspension with Georgia stringing her up,  face down, then spinning and swinging her, getting her to laugh with delight. This entertained our audience quite a bit, displaying G’s legs languidly, her slender body sparkled in the reflection of the overhead light.

By happenstance it turned out to be the deftest I have ever tied Georgia, it was a simple tie, yet held her quite comfortably. My reward of course for tying G so quickly is that I forgot exactly how I did it so fast.

Then our female guest wanted to be tied, and with her Masters permission she was about to be. Honestly, I was quite apprehensive. I was confident in my ability, confident with what sort of tie I would use, for better or worse. In my mind I reminded myself of the basic rules of rope safety,  trying to suppress the nightmare images of the bottom dropping three feet down face first on a hard surface. I was looking forward to the opportunity though; since usually I am tying Georgia, this was a different person, with a different body type. I needed to make sure she communicated with me, and I with her. Even though her role is a slave, communicating and watching their response is crucial to ensuring good productive playtime.

I stuck with simplicity, wraps around the trunk of the body, tying hands, breasts, hips, and ankles. Making sure the knots were tight, confident nothing would slip, checking the wraps again, I felt good about what I had done. Once I had her tied, she went airborne and it looked something like this.

After the first time suspended, we let her down for a few, asked her how she felt, checked her body, then to my surprise she wanted to be suspended again. How could I say no?

It was a stimulating erotic evening, being stopped only by the lateness of the hour. Smiling satisfied with each other G and I communicated effectively.  Also, we learned some important lessons in rope suspension for an audience. Experiences like this strengthen mine and Georgia’s relationship. We become closer to each other as our minds begin to think as one when we share play space with others.

Jay

An Extremely Tardy HNT

I apologize for my tardiness….anything I can do to make amends…let me know ;o)

xo

G

Adventures W/Rope: Lessons Learn-ed

Over the last week Georgia and I have been able to have some quality practice time with our rope; my technique is finally starting to evolve for the better.

Having a small about of hemp rope, but a little more nylon rope; I am seeing the difference between nylon and hemp. I enjoy using both materials; each has its own benefits depending on the situation. Nylon is  available at the local hardware store, and I live in a geographic region where your only option for hemp is online.

Hemp looks really really good against skin; Georgia’s skin tone is such that it really brings out the color of the rope. The way the material lays purveys a raw earthy sort of tone about the rope, hemp mysterious allure can almost take you back in time it seems. On the other hand nylon is fun ! Soft in your hands, its like snuggling against your favorite blanket. Nylon looks good and there are some sexy pics with nylon, but I love the hemp look, hopefully soon we will have some more to play with.

As far as stretching or that type of difference I haven’t done enough suspension with hemp to notice, the hemp I have is 6mm and not long enough to do enough wraps for good suspension; 8mm is better for G’s skin and body type.

When rigging Georgia I have to be mindful of her neck when I suspend her, I try to keep her head above her body and square over her shoulders. No easy task. So all of my ties are done with that in mind; which suffice to say has been a fun process figuring out what works and what doesn’t.

And one last thing I really need to get a bigger, better O ring.

~JM

Ceremonial Bondage

I mentioned ceremonial bondage in a twitter reply the other day. Certainly it can mean a lot of things to many different people so I wanted to play around with the idea, research it, and maybe see what kind of scenarios one could come up with. Consider this the first steps at untangling a string of an idea.

In the following set of pics, I am thinking some sort of rite of passage for a woman moving from one phase of life to another. Yeah its thrown together and impromptu spur of the moment idea so apologies ahead of time.  I did try my best at a dragonfly sleeve which turned out to be a really fun tie.


Jay N Georgia

New Boobie Harness!

Its apparent to anyone that has poked around our blog at all that while I have many gifts and pleasing attributes, ‘a nice rack’ isnt one of them.  As a card-carrying member of the Itty-Bitty-Titty-Committee, Im comfortable with that, and most of the time am grateful that I can run, sleep on my stomach, and have no fear of my breasts sagging to my waste before I retire.

But when we embarked on our kink journey, and got our first rope, we had a very difficult time finding a breast/chest harness that didn’t slide together, or make me look like a pre-pubescent boy.  Jay, as always, was determined to find/create a harness that would work for me.

Jay finally stumbled onto a video demo from the wonderful people at Kink.com. Boobs: Be They Big or Small, Learn How To Tie Them All,  a demo by Matt Williams and one small-breasted crazy sexy brunette and one large-breasted, voluptuous hottie.

It was easily the best breast harness we’ve tried.  It was comfortable enough I wore it around the house for quite a bit.  The way the rope is wrapped, it pinches and stimulates my nipples with every movement.  I LOVED IT!  Jay, as always a thinkin’ man, grabbed the camera.  The harness was perfect, the light was perfect, we were so in sync and connected.  I felt sexy.  The following pictures were the result.  I love them and hope you will enjoy them too.

xo

G

Birds & The Bees Response

Our Rope-Idol, Graydancer, was entertaining the topic of sex education, aka ‘the birds and the bees’ that prompted this response from me:

I have an 11 year old daughter (going on 23) who just underwent the per-requisite ‘birds and bees day’ at school. She brought home the form, and giggled, and said ‘do I really have to do this? I already know all this stuff!”

I’m an RN, and she is my 3rd trip down the hormonal hell-train that is puberty, she’s been very educated about her body and we’ve started talking about sex (in a sex-positive way, of course!) She came home from ‘V-Day’ (Vagina Day) at school with a little package containing a pamphlet for her and one for me (on how/what to talk to my daughter about puberty) 2 pads, and a mini Secret deodorant. I started looking through the booklets, and it was like Nickelodeon and Disney combined to vomit all over the traditional material! So very upbeat about the whole ordeal! They went into a lot of detail about every, and I do mean EVERY possible symptom of puberty onset.
That all sounds pretty good, right? But as I kept reading there was NO mention of sex at all. Lots of info about pubescent changes (and the boys got the same deal in a separate room, of course), but NOTHING about masturbation/sex (although she did ask me about wet dreams…lol). The funny/tragic thing about the whole deal was they still talked about sex that day. On the playground at lunchtime, my daughter said the boys and girls compared booklets in their little cliques. (one of the boys apparently asked how he would know if he had an erection, and the teachers response was ‘it will be staring right back at you’…lol…the one-eyed-wonder-worm strikes again!) She says no one offered ‘show and tell’, but the majority of the conversation that was relayed to me was about how the two genders fit together in a sexual context. I answered all of her questions she garnered from her lunchtime schoolyard quorum, which she promptly ran to the computer to send off messages to her little pals to clarify their confusion as well. Since then, Ive kind of turned into the impromptu Dr. Ruth for her and her 6th grade pals! I figure as a nurse, at least I’m making sure they have accurate info (instead of the usual fallacies that are circulated at that age) but I was sad that even after revamping the whole ‘sex-ed day’ at school, they STILL are not covering safe sex, or sex at all for that matter. So I cant speak for anyone else, but I am spreading sex-positive education in our neck of the woods! lol

I ask myself as I sit here, why is the general consensus society-wide that sex is bad and should not be discussed? If you enjoy sex, in any of its many, many flavors, why wouldn’t you want to make sure your child enjoys something that is such an integral part of successful relationships? Certainly there should be some small constraint as to when a child is emotionally/physically mature enough to handle the content of such education.  But if we teach our children how to be kind and generous, manage money, take care of themselves physically, and drive a car, as well as a zillion other lessons taught by example every day, why shouldn’t they learn that amazing joy and fulfillment can be had and shared? Why DON’T we want our children to feel good?

I think society as a whole should get over their own discomfort about talking about sex, and quit leaving their children’s sex education to the internet and gossip circles at school. After all, everyone knows those are VERY credible sources of information.

Thanks for listening to my rant…you can read Gray’s original article here

xo

G