The Female Orgasm

Jay and I had a discussion the other day regarding a couple of articles we had read about the infamous G Spot (see previous post). Being a medical professional, I have had opportunity to learn things about the human body that blow my mind, amaze and astound me.  The human genitals, whether male of female come in various shapes and sizes but with similar bundles of nerves that give us the unparalleled pleasure, relaxation, endorphin rush high that is the ‘Big O’. Just like penises come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, widths, lengths, colors, and sensitivity, so does the vagina, labia and clitoris.  Large lips, small clits, tight vaginas are all variations on the same genital organ, and generally speaking (with the exception of genetic malformations) do nothing to impair the functunality of the nerve endings given the proper stimulation.  The same holds true about the G spot.  According to Wiki, the G spot, or ‘Grafenberg Spot’ is:

“a term used to describe the bean-shaped[1] area of the vagina that many women report to contain an erogenous zone which when stimulated can lead to high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms.[2] It is typically located one to three inches up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vagina opening and the urethra.”

The great debate is of its existence. If you ask any woman that has had the unparalleled pleasure of a G-spot orgasm, the answer to that question is a resounding ‘DUH! YES!!!’.  So my question is, if some women do have them, and some women don’t, does that indicate that those that do are having amazing delusions? Or perhaps, its that the ‘bean shaped area’ can be larger or smaller (thus easier/harder to find and stimulate), much like the variations on the rest of the genitalia?   One article I recently read included a study done in Europe in which a sample of women were taken that claimed to have orgasm from intercourse alone and a sample of women that couldn’t.  They performed ultrasounds on the anterior wall of the vagina in all these women, and those that had found the G-spot had a significantly increased thickness on the anterior wall of the vagina, while those that hadn’t had the pleasure, had significantly thinner anterior wall. If you operate on that premise, (that we all have one, just some are bigger than others) it is more a question of sheer determination to find said heavenly spot.

Also, take into consideration that a vast majority of women have never taken a good look at their vagina, much less touching it in an exploratory fashion. Studies would indicate up to 70% of women have never had an orgasm from intercourse alone (no clitoral stimulation), and up to 15% have never had an orgasm at all (TRAGIC). You have to be comfortable enough with your body and sexuality to figure out what feels good to you, first and foremost.  If out of shame, discomfort, public education or the enforced viewpoints of your parents, you are hesitant to look, much less touch your vagina, then you are going to be even less comfortable with instructing your partner on how to stimulate the desired area. The lack of education about basic sex in our society is deplorable to me, especially since it will ultimately rob millions of women of one of life’s easiest and greatest pleasures. Education is provided to our youth about structure and function, and prevention of disease/pregnancy, but the basic sex act/pleasurable side of sex is rarely addressed (publicly or in the home).  Our young adults are therefore doomed to get their impractical sex education from network television or free internet porn instead. This lack of education could also be impairing women from recognizing the difference between a clitoral orgasm vs the deeper vaginal/cervical orgasm to be achieved by an attentive partner during actual intercourse.

I dont know that its been specifically said that I am bi-sexual or not, but in my exploration of the female body, here is what I have to offer in the way of a guide to finding it for yourself.  When a woman is sexually aroused, her genital area becomes engorged, or swollen, with increased blood flow to the area.  This increased blood flow allows for the natural lubrication a woman’s body provides to facilitate sex.  It also causes some mild swelling, thus exposing more of this nerve-infested area for stimulation.  So with your partner, or by yourself (porn is a wonderful accessory here), when your body is in a state of arousal, carefully insert 2 fingers part way into the vagina, and curl your finger up toward the pelvic bone (symphesis pubis) in a kind of ‘come hither’ hook.  Gently feel around in this area until you find a rough, knot-like bump.  Once you find that, gently stimulate it with varying pressures and strokes.  If you are successful, YOU WILL KNOW.  It is not uncommon for women to feel like they are peeing or to forcefully ejaculate (although many do not) or to take up to 20 minutes of stimulation to experience this type of mind-blowing ecstasy. Once you know what your feeling, you can try stimulating during intercourse. Positions that are useful (at least for me) are doggy-style/standing bent over at the waste with him from behind, and reverse-cowgirl all will hit my button, so to speak. Here are a few more recommended by the ‘sexperts’.

I hope this helps someone find their G-spot. I find the female orgasm to be a beautiful, amazing and powerful thing, and love figuring out how to make someones legs quiver uncontrollably and fill the room with the most delicious moans.  To find that special place…to bring that kind of pleasure and joy….*sigh…its just  an awe-inspiring thing.  I found this site ( ) in my travels, and was turned on and awed at the same time.  It gives the female orgasm beauty and is (to me at least) erotic art in motion.  I hope you enjoy it as I did…have to go jump Jay now…make him watch it too…lol



BTW…Here are more statistics about sex and the human body than you can shake a stick at for anyone that is intersted :)B

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